Maturing With Children

I often am asked, “How much do you spend on groceries?” Most people think to themselves a basic mathematical equation: T1K x 13 (T1K = their one kid) x Their Grocery Bill = The Jeubs’ Grocery Bill. Without fail, when we figure out the real numbers, my grocery bill is usually a half or a third of what most people spend on T1K!

How can this be? For one, God is our ultimate provider. Let me make perfectly clear that I do not want to detract from how incredibly proficient Jesus Christ is in providing our “daily bread.” I am thoroughly convinced–and evidences pop up all the time in our lives–that God will always provide the necessities in life to those people who are faithful.

In fact, I’d go out on a limb and say this: it matters not how many kids you have when it comes to your daily needs. God has always kept Chris and I on the edge of our finances, but you know what? We have always been taken care of. If we had 100 kids, I believe God would provide for this. Almost engrained in modern parents is the idea that they must be perfectly prepared for the coming of children. The argument goes something like this: Not only must parents be mature enough to have children, they have to have all their finances in a row and be totally secure in order to face the drastic–and expensive–world of babies.

In reality, this is backwards. As for maturity, a young couple can stay forever self-centered and egotistical if they avoid having children. Once the first baby comes along, the same young couple miraculously matures. They grow into the next phase in life: child rearing. Whether through adoption or natural birth, couples who become parents grow up.

Isn’t this the way it always was until recent history? In the 19th century, it was not uncommon for the 14 year old couple to get married. And this was right when their hormones were just getting turned on to each other. Those elders in that generation did not flip out about 14-year-olds not being “mature” enough or “financially stable.” Of course they weren’t. Getting married in the mid-teens was not that big of a deal.

Don’t misread me; I’m not advocating teen marriages. There is sense in waiting through the educational years. However, I am protesting the thirty-somethings who are still on the Pill thinking children are somewhere (don’t know where) in their future. What these couples don’t realize is that they have a window of opportunity to procreate, and if they pass without partaking, they will miss out on the beautiful maturation of raising children.


About Wendy Jeub

Yes, Wendy Jeub has brought 16 children into the world, and loves each and every one of them. So much so, she'd welcome more!

  • Michelle

    BEAUTIFUL!!! So well put Wendy, I really enjoyed reading this. I know you are not advicating marriage in the teens, but my husband and I have been together since I was 16 years old. we had our 1st child at age 17, boy that makes you grow up fast. Praise the Lord for that! Today is my 32nd birthday, so my husband and I have celebrated many years together. We are expecting our 5th Blessing in May and we PRAY the Lord will bless us with many more.