Practicing Behavior

Two chapters in our book explains how we do practice sessions with our kids to remedy unpleasant behavior. “Bringing Order to the Chaos” (Chapter 7) explains how we make obedience a game to win, and “Peaceful Church, Shopping and Bedtime” (Chapter Eight) shows how we literally act out the expectations we have for our kids. Seriously, going to church as a family, shopping with all of the kids with, and going to bed are pleasant experiences in our family.

We received an email from a mom of seven kids (all under 7) who applied these principles. The practicing really works, and we are pleased to hear from parents who give it a try. Here’s her own words…

Chris and Wendy,

I just had to share that I tried your suggestion of “practicing” with my kids. We practiced going to bed, and the kids thought it was great. Last night was soooo peaceful sending them to bed!! Don’t know how long it will last, but we will keep pushing forward. Your book hit it right on: too often we discipline for situations that simply need to be taught more. I’m most looking forward to practicing sitting still and quiet in church more. Our church actually is a big advocate of families sitting together, which I’ve always appreciated. We don’t have a seperate children’s church. But, there is always the need for improvement among our little brood.

I wanted to share, too, that God’s timing has been incredible for my hubby and I. As we continue to read aloud your book in the evening, we have such peace about plugging forward with the committment to leave the choice of children up to the Lord…that we made almost ten years ago this January. I think what hit us most was the description of making a choice to “avoid” God’s blessing. And the pratical application of filling in the prayer of “God, I don’t like your blessing.” We have always felt “free” when leaving this up to the Lord. I think, when just feeling temperarily overwhelmed, our sight is set on making things easier. We couldn’t imagine, though, having taught our children that “whatever God gives us is His blessing,” and then having to almost sneak around what we have taught them. (This is why watching larger families on TV is like watching heroes!! ) Didn’t seem right after we had really prayed about it.

We wanted you to know and be encouraged of how much your reminders have meant to us. Praise God from whom all blessings flow!!!!

Much appreciation and love in Christ!

The Tonns

Wendy and I love to think of a mom and dad cuddling with our book at night to read together. This is exactly the heart of why we wrote the book: to be an encouragement to couples who sense the calling to have and raise children. Thank you, Deanna Tonn, for returning that encouragement to us!

About Chris & Wendy Jeub

The Jeub Family live in Monument, Colorado. They encourage couples to love God and love one another, building an atmosphere of love in their homes.

  • http://www.jeubfamily.com Shannon Mallory


    I just finished reading “Love in the House” by the Jeub family. I just loved reading it especially after seeing them on tv. It was so encouraging to me… and challenging as well. I tend to get bogged down with training and teaching my children, trying to make things run smoothly in our home. It’s easy to overlook LOVING each other. It is so important that we love one another, and reading this book helped remind me of that. My children are 5, 4, 2, and 9 months… they don’t have to be perfect! They are children!!!! I need to teach them diligently, patiently and WITH LOVE!!! I guess that is just what I have been needing to hear lately!

    With LOVE!

    Shannon Mallory : )