Jul
30
2009

Terrible Two's and Troubled Teenagers

“Children are a heritage of the Lord,” right? We got that, sure. But what about those “terrible two’s” or “troubled teenagers”? Most parents can’t wait to rush them through these ages.

It’s funny. Wendy and I recall grinding our teeth over our first 2-year-olds and our first batch of teenagers. The temper tantrums (from the 2-year-olds) and the temper tantrums (from the teenagers) got under our skins, annoyed and appalled us. Two-year-olds were expected to act more like 5-year-olds, and teenagers should “act their age” (meaning 19 or 20). Our parenting was put on autopilot, “just get through this phase.”

Call it old age. We now love 2-year-olds and teenagers. Sure, we have to stop and handle the crabby toddler, explain a thing or two, perhaps correct firmly to teach proper behavior. Teenagers may require a late-night talk over details in their life—even when we’re tired, even when we know these details have much more to do with emotions than reality.

But these annoyances aren’t annoying anymore. These are parenting moments that draw us closer together. These are opportunities to love one another, listen and encourage one another.

Here’s the picture that got this idea rolling. Take a good look at it; it speaks a thousand words:

teenagers

Isaiah (13), Lydia (15), Noah (10) and Micah (12) spent literally an hour clicking the Macbook’s webcam over and over again trying to get the right take. Jumping up and down like a bunch of court jesters, laughing and joking, collaborating and strategizing. “Let’s get it right this time!” for the umpteenth time.

I’ve got this picture on my cell phone, on my computer desktop, and now on our Web site. I love it. It reminds me of the joy of this age. It’ll be gone before we know it, they’ll be back on the ground, living mature lives of adulthood. They won’t be this age forever, which is a good thing, but oh Lord, help me not rush them out of it.

About Chris & Wendy Jeub

The Jeub Family live in Monument, Colorado. They encourage couples to love God and love one another, building an atmosphere of love in their homes.

  • http://thepinkslippers.blogspot.com/ Wendy

    Great perspective given to a Mommy who has a newborn, 1 yr old, 2 yr old, 3 yr old, 5 yr old, 6 yr old, and whew, 9 yr old. It’s difficult some days. You know! But THANK YOU!
    Wendy

  • Doris Bissell

    WOW, THOSE 4 KIDS SURE HAVE ALOT OF ENERGY ONE CAN SEE THEY ARE VERY WELL LOVED & CARED FOR AND VERY HAPPY KIDS YOU GUYS ARE DOING AN EXCELLENT JOB IN RAISING YOUR 15 KIDS………..DORIS BISSELL AN AVID JEUB FAMILY FAN & ALSO THE 5TH OF 8 KIDS FROM SADLY TO SAY A VERY BAD DYSFUNCTIONAL HOME WE WERE RAISED IN………!

  • http://working-diva.blogspot.com ElleBee

    What an incredible picture! So great to see a group of kids really acting their age and having so much fun! :)

  • Mollie

    What cool characters to do something like that! The picture looks un real. I love it! I think its awesome that they wanted to do this. This is a good reminder for me, yet hard for me to put to practice these days. Thank you for your writings!

  • Twila

    Quite the athletic jump from a bunch of happy Juebs! Your lovely family is such an encouragement to our family. I want to thank you also for your delicious recipe for zuchini bread and cream cheese frosting. Our family loves it. Baby #9 is due in 5 weeks and we are so excited! I often think of your family as we keep on keeping on for the Glory and Honor of serving our Lord and Savior. God bless you all and know that you are in my prayers often.

  • Amanda

    What a great story. I should tell this to my mom.
    thanks oh and great pic also.
    -Amanda

  • http://simplelivingak.wordpress.com/ Jason and Anna

    That looks very cool! Very creative children. :)
    ~Blessings~

  • Renee Carter

    This is very encouraging, I have a two year old little girl and and one year old little boy. I also have a seven year old daughter and five year old little boy. I have been through the terrible two’s before but some days it feels like I don’t know what I’m doing!

  • http://www.shellsgang.blogspot.com Michelle H

    So true!

    Coming from a mom who has two’s and teens, I agree. I never thought the teen years would be so fun. There not quite a serious grown up yet, but there still kids too. I’m loving it and learning it.

    Two has to be my favorite age though. My youngest is two and so adorable.

    Shell