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While waiting for our adoption to finalize, we were often asked why we were adopting. We already had 2 boys, and God surprised us with another pregnancy — this time a girl — during our 2.5-year adoption process. This was a good question, one we asked ourselves quite often!
Many think adoption is really for couples who are unable to conceive. We didn’t have fertility difficulties, so folks wanted to know what our motivation was. Over time we gave many different reasons. On the 13 hour plane ride to China, we had some spare time, so we compiled our list. We call this a list of convictions because, we believe, they were convictions in our life from God. For quite some time, God called us to adopt.
The concept of adoption originates with God
The brutal — yet beautiful — story of God entering a scarred world in the person of Jesus is ultimately about providing a means of adoption (and redemption) for His estranged sons and daughters into His family. The One that fashioned the universe into existence chose to set aside comfort and safety to allow a broken and evil humanity to nail Him to a cross, all because He loved us.
When we humble ourselves and ask for God’s help and forgiveness, we are adopted as His children. We feel we are already akin to our son — adopted children.
There are many orphans in this world who need a home
While we can’t help them all, we can open up our family to the few that God leads us to, with the resources He provides.
This is succinctly illustrated in the story of a man, walking along the beach, at low tide. He observed that the beach was littered with starfish, stranded by the receding ocean, all doomed to die. At one point he encountered a child picking some up and tossing them back in. “You can’t possibly make a make any dent or difference, with so many,” he noted to the boy as he passed. The boy held one before throwing into the sea and responded, “It matters to this one.”
So it was with us. We can’t adopt the whole world, but we can adopt one.
Children shouldn’t be taken for granted
When we began to consider having children, we realized that it might not be easy for us. We decided, early on in our marriage, that if we were unable to conceive biologically, we wouldn’t attempt any medical intervention or fertility treatment. Whether a child had our DNA or not wasn’t a priority. In our assessment, you are a parent based on how you love them, not how they joined the family.
Adoption is worth the financial expense
Adoption is financially expensive, no doubt about it. We could have spent the money to finish our basement or go on multiple vacations. The money could have been saved for the unknown future or been invested to earn more of it. Yet, all of that is temporal and fleeting. In God’s economy, a person is both eternal and of inestimable worth . In God’s economy, children are an asset and not a curse. In God’s economy, it is better to give than to receive. We chose the option to convert the temporary into that which is imperishable.
Adopting a child is a calling
Ultimately, this process has been God leading us (and teaching and providing) and we are merely following.
I wonder what would happen if every follower of God was to get actively involved in loving another child through adoption? What if Christian families asked God if if He would have them love another one? Or could you be God’s provision for that family, financially, prayerfully or practically. You might not be called to adopt, but you can be a part of loving another child through community.
Adoption is a beautiful journey. We’d like to hear from you. Do you have adoption convictions? Have you walked this walk? Please, leave your comments below.