Last week we stirred up quite a conversation talking about finances (Read “If You Couldn’t Afford a Child, Would You Have One Anyway? Part 1). We offered a logical syllogism to explain why we choose to have children though some may think we can’t afford them. We’ve got something more to say.
Recall that the argument went like this:
- Children are blessings from God.
- We love to be blessed.
- Therefore, we welcome and love children.
Swapping the conclusion (#3) with “Therefore, we can’t afford another child” is a non sequitur, a line of thinking that “did not follow” (the word’s meaning in latin). To us this seems logical, and most of the comments that followed reinforced us.
Many couples, though, make their life decisions with this conclusion. To logically justify it, they replace one of the premises. Replace the first with, “Children aren’t blessings from God,” and it works. Or the second with, “We don’t want to be blessed right now,” okay. Or, “We have to get our student loans/house/second car/whatever paid off first,” and you have an equation that’s logical.
Logical, sure. But faithful? For us, when God calls us to do something, we do it. It doesn’t matter how outlandish it is.
But here’s the kicker: God isn’t asking us to be illogical or outlandish. Our conviction is quite the contrary. He’s calling us to believe something that makes a tremendous amount of sense.
Children are a blessing. We’ve been shown this time and time again. The more that have come, the more God’s logical argument is validated. God hasn’t abandoned us with our children. He has shown us blessings of frugality, opened our eyes to the harmful effects of debt, encouraged us with ingenuity and creativity to make things work out. Lots of things we write about in our books and on this blog.
As time goes by and children come, our fears are overcome by faith. We discover that our fears are just paper dragons: the joy of family tears them down and life becomes the fantastic, exciting life that God wants for us. We believe He wants the same for other young couples, if only they would tear through their fear.