Mar
08
2011

The Busy Life

The Busy Life

Life is busy right now. We have a huge tournament next week in Texas. We have a flu bug that we picked up at the last tournament, and a handful of the kids are suffering with it. Our business plucks along, but the to-do list is towering.

Is a busy life bad? We suppose it would be if the busyness of life wasn’t rewarding or worthwhile. We can hardly think that. The good things we participate in are so fruitful we can hardly keep up with it. We love our life, we love our busyness.

Question: When does a busy life become dysfunctional?

About Chris & Wendy Jeub

The Jeub Family live in Monument, Colorado. They encourage couples to love God and love one another, building an atmosphere of love in their homes.

  • Mybigfamily

    I absolutely love my busy life with my children. It becomes a problem when the kids are no longer enjoying it with you.When it becomes a burden instead of a joy it is time to back off. Enjoying my family is everything and what works for each family is different. We just need to find the schedule that works best with our family asn so for everyone elses.

    • Janetkiessling

      Amen!!!

  • Bjmjasay

    Thank you for your perspective. I’ve been asking that same question lately–are we too busy? So many people around us and in blogs are always talking about how people need to slow down and not be busy that I’ve been pondering whether we should make a change. But we love pretty much all of the things that are making our lives busy, and our children are growing in amazing ways. And through our busy lives, we are able to minister to others as a family.

    Perhaps that is the answer–A busy life is dysfunctional if your spiritual life, your relationships or your health are suffering from it. (And I don’t just mean by picking up a flu bug that you could have caught at the grocery store, if not at your tournament!)

    If you and your family are growing and enjoying your service to others and each other, then the stress and rushing around aren’t really horrible things to be avoided at all costs. And we shouldn’t feel guilty about being busy about the things that God has called us to do. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=799259836 Amy Woolley Pederson

    There are two commands in scripture that come to mind. “Be still and know that I am God.” ~ Psalm 46:10 “And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much more as you see the Day approaching.” ~Hebrews 10:24-25

    I don’t think either one of these specifically says “do not be busy”. Rather, for me, Psalm 46:10 is a soft, gentle reminder of what my priority should be. When I am too busy, I don’t keep a proper perspective, I don’t remember to “consider it all joy”. I am far too easily upset, jostled, overwhelmed, frustrated. I have to keep a pace of life that gives me down time to regroup and stay centered. How much busyness each family or each person can handle is very different. I think the principle is the common ground.

    Hebrews 10:24-25 again contains a principle that we try to live by as a family. If we are too busy to notice those around us that need encouragement, prayer, a meal, then I feel we are too busy. If we are too busy to offer fellowship and a meal at our home to somebody in need of it, then I feel we are too busy. These are simply the convictions that God has laid on our hearts. I cannot make the case that they are required for every Christian family.

    I can’t wait to see what others bring to the table in this discussion. Great topic!

  • Janetkiessling

    We had to take a break from Awanas last year. 1) the kids were not learning anything from it……….just couldn’t wait to see who was in first place at the end of the races at the end of the night. 2)memorizing was becoming a chore………we also have one w/ dyslexia – and he was always coming home in tears. Don’t get me wrong – Awanas in a great program and we do plan to try and pick it up again this fall – Lord Willing! But we neede their hearts in the right place before we put them back. For us that was making our life very dysfunctional!!!:(

  • Wwplear

    Even good fruitful things need to be put on the shelf sometimes! Most families are doing good things but they miss doing what’s most important. If your able to keep up with all those things, while not neglecting your fellowship and intamacy with the Lord, spouse and children, then you are ok. If the Devil can’t make you bad he will make you busy! Healthy families learn to live with balance and margin.
    My husband and I are reading a book called 10 Building Blocks for a healthy family by Jim Burns and some of the statements from above come from this book. He also writes some questions to ask ourselves to see if we are overloaded. 1 Have you stopped enhoying life because tyou are too busy? 2 Hame you stopped developing new relationships? 3 Are you exhausted most of the time? 4 Do you and your spouse hae a regular date night? 5 does your family have an enjoyable dinner together on a regular basis? 6 Do you get enough sleep? 7 Do you take a restful day off? 8 Do you have regularly scheduled family times togerther? 9 Do you have credit problems or a halge debt load? 10 Are your children showing signs of stress? He says if you struggle with many of these questions then like many families you are probably in crisis mode and heading for disaster.
    Hope this helps….if not it has sure helped us! God Bless!

  • http://homespunheritage.blogspot.com/ ~*Jolene*~

    When you leave God out of the equation.

  • JenT

    When you are too busy for God. When the family starts going in separate directions and getting split up with too many activities. When life becomes too busy to help your friends or neighbors. There are probably many times being busy becomes dysfunctional; that’s just all I could think of right now.