I’m jealous of my wife. While I was away in Keller, Texas, fathering the teenagers through a debate tournament, Wendy was able to visit with the Duggar family (stars of TLC’s hit show 19 and Counting) in their visit to Focus on the Family. I so wish I were there for that.
Jim Bob and I have talked on the phone a couple of times, but this was the first time for our two families to (partially) connect in person. When I returned home late last weekend, Wendy and I talked about our similar testimonies.
- Jim Bob and Michelle married young, but have few regrets about it. Wendy and I met and married in 10 months.
- They valued faith in their courtship, more than other “compatibilities.” Our first days of dating have the same testimony.
- The Duggars, believe it or not, were on the pill early in their marriage. We weren’t on the pill, but we tried to avoid pregnancy. Our testimonies are the same: We both regret our early resistance to children.
Notice the similarity? All three bullets are contrary to conventional wisdom. Conventional wisdom says (1) delay marriage and family as far into the future as reasonable, (2) faith is low on the list of more-important factors in marriage, and (3) by any means possible, avoid children, especially in the early years of your marriage.
The Duggars are pioneers in a most basic conviction on millions of parents’ hearts: Love Another Child. We are able get a glimpse into the busy life of a family of 19 children on television, but it’s just a glimpse. Wendy was able to see more than just a TV glimpse: She saw love for God and for others. We (and 3 million viewers every week) see a lovely family.
I hope to meet them someday. Oh, I’m so jealous.