Jul
07
2011

When to Start Student Driving?

Driving

Well, we don't start them this early. But we do like them to get their permits asap.

“How do you decide if your child is ready to start driving? What criteria do you use? I’m just now needing to contemplate this. My daughter wants to know what she has to do to be able to get a learner’s permit and I just don’t know what to say. To say she can when “I” feel comfortable with it or when “I” feel she’s mature enough is frustrating for both of us.” – Cindee N.

We’re all for young drivers. Having teen drivers in our home makes running errands and carrying on with busy life so much easier. Having a benchmark for getting the permit is wise.

But, we scratch our heads at those who insist on waiting till 18. It’s a hard fast rule for some. We know some extremely responsible teens (16-17) be denied the privilege of a license because the parents have some sort of rule in their heads about it. Eh, not for us.

What are your thoughts about teenage driving?

About Chris & Wendy Jeub

The Jeub Family live in Monument, Colorado. They encourage couples to love God and love one another, building an atmosphere of love in their homes.

  • http://www.torishomefront.blogspot.com Marshallmom2001

    I would love for my  nearly 15yo to get his asap, but we have to jump through hoops for the state and the public education system.  We are homeschoolers, but he has to attend Driver’s Ed classes at the local high school for an entire semester (much of which is wasted time, imho) or we have to wait until next summer for him to take it.  Not looking forward to the headache of getting that scheduled!

    Don’t you Jeubs homeschool?  I beg your pardon if I’m mistaken!  What kind of requirements for driver’s ed does the state impose on you there?

    Blessings!
    Tori

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

      Yes, we homeschool. The girls bought a curriculum at our state conference, an online solution. They went through the self-study to gain a certificate that validated their classwork to the Colorado DMV. This got them access to the written test for their permit, and then I signed on their behind-the-wheel hours. This got them access to their behind-the-wheel test, which led to their license.

      This avoided the high school classes, which I likewise foresaw as a waste of time. The online solution was only $89. I’ll have Cynthia post a link on this discussion.

      • Cindee Fox

        I’m looking forward to that link.  (Hint, hint… :-)

        • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

          Hi Cindee. Cynthia posted the link…it’s at the top of this conversation thread.

      • Kkies_76

        I never realized things were so different state-to-state.  We had to shell out 350.00 for drivers ed thru AAA!  (choke)  lol.  I wish all government schools had drivers ed like it use to when I went to school, and when my oldest daughter was in school.  We still had to pay, but not like we do now.
        Oh, by the way, since none of us watch much tv, I just saw the first ever episode of your family.  I really enjoyed it.  Down to earth and not always taking some sort of vacation.  Kids acting like kids, running around and so on.  And I do understand the problems that you have had with an older child.  We had to do the same thing with our older daughter because of the negative impact her actions would have had on our younger children.  As parents, we can only do our absolute best, but before becoming a parent it helps to know ahead of time what you want and expect from your children.  Then again, with many children, they all go their teen years, some rebelle (sp), some realize that being a teenager means taking on more mature responsibility for themselves.  It’s not an invitation to be hateful or mean, or do things they know is morally and ethically wrong.  Sometimes we learn what we need to teach from some of the things our older children go thru.  Your family looks to be doing an awesome job, so when the going gets tough, well, then so do we.  Looking forward to seeing more.  Thanks

  • http://julianne-betweenthelines.blogspot.com/ Julianne

    I was allowed to get my permit as early as legally possible in my state – 14 and 9 months. It sounds like the online curriculum your daughters used was a great idea. I felt like I wasted alot of time and money going through the state system. However, I was glad to be able to get my permit so early on. It gave me plenty of time to get my practice hours in and be comfortable behind the wheel before I turned 16 and took the drivers test.

    I do know several families at my church who have preferred to wait until their teens are 18 to allow them to get their drivers license. One family even decided to wait until their children were 21 to allow them to take the test. Although I understand these families wanted to be sure of their childrens maturity and responsibility before allowing them behind the wheel it ultimately seems like an unnecessary and overprotective action that demands alot of extra time on the parents part. I know my parents loved having an extra driver to run errands and help out!

  • Samantha

    We are hesitant to let our daughter get her permit next year when she turns 14, b/c that means when she is 16, she will automatically have a liscense, and our insurance will increase by leaps and bounds.  sigh.  We can’t afford for our insurance to go up, so we’ve told our girls they may have to wait a while.

    Samantha

    • Kkies_76

      14 is way too young.  Sixteen is plenty young enough.  And I totally agree with you…even though our 16 yr old gets a break on insurance because of her exceptional grades, it is still HIGH.  You are smart to wait, mostly because of the age.  Who’s bright idea thinks it is ok to get a permit at 14?

  • http://www.clarkchatter.blogspot.com Ginger

    We have actually told our kids 18 was the magic age. We don’t actually think that’s set in stone, but we’re not going to tell them that yet! lol
    I don’t trust girl drivers. They’re too easily distracted in general. I expect our boys to start driving at an earlier age, but that’s just my own preconceived notions. I have no idea who will end up being more mature. Maturity for us is the determining factor. I do look forward to having another driver in the house though! 

  • Cynthia Jeub

    Hmm, I thought I posted this last week. Here’s the link to the school we used: http://www.virtualdriveofamerica.com/

  • Kkies_76

    Each child is an individual.  I’ve already raised 6 children to adulthood, and I have at home a 16 yr old daughter, and 14 yr old daughter.  Being sexist about driving is not nice to our children.  Boys are not necessarily  better drivers than girls, or vice-versa.  It’s what and how they are taught, and then it is up to them on how they take it.  Remember when you were 16,  it’s not fun to feel degraded because of your sex or age.  I had some children wait until they were 18 (or over) because we could not afford drivers ed.  BIG mistake.  At 18 they do not have to have drivers ed.   All teens should HAVE to have a course in drivers ed. before they ever drive.  There are too many things they are taught in the classroom course that parents would never even think to tell their kids about driving.  They get this IN a classroom only.  Then the hours with a drivers ed “coach” is great, mostly because kids will listen to him/her so much more than they will mom or dad….and they have a brake on their side of the vehicle, so it’s really safer.  Let’s let our children grow up when it’s their time to grow up.  This is just another step in that process.  As a parent it is still up to us to decide if they can drive on any given day or time.  You don’t always just hand them the keys as soon as they get their drivers license.  Periodically the parent needs to hand them the keys once in a while,  jump in the passenger side, and SEE how your childs’ driving abilities are doing.  Too many parents never get into a car with their child driving once they have their license, and they let the child just go, and go, and go.  You are still their parent and they are still minors.  If need be, the driving can be limited, or if their are problems, you have the right to revolk their drivers license as punishment.  It’s all in how you parent your children. 

  • Cassandra Storey

    In New York, you cant even get your permit until you are 16. Then you have to have your permit for so months or until you turn 17. Or something like that.