Cynthia and Lydia refer to each other as “George” and “Fred” respectively. As a celebration of Cynthia’s 19th birthday, Lydia made this video blog for her. Goofy, but definitely heartwarming.
It is a blessing to see two sisters grow up loving each other so much.
I can’t say this was true for me growing up. I was the only son, but my three sisters and I had several bitter moments. Wendy grew up with her sibling group of three sisters (a second sibling group older than her had two brothers and one sister, making a total of six). She recalls the same kind of vitriol in their younger years.
To be honest, Wendy and I raised Alicia and Alissa (now 27 and 25) much differently than our current crew of kids. They, like us, had a bitter relationship growing up. Lots of fights, jealousy, bickering, etc. As adults they now have a good relationship, just as Wendy and I have good relationships with our adult siblings.
Do you relate? What made growing up with siblings so difficult?
I suppose there are a myriad of issues wrapped up in sibling rivalry, but allow me the chance to try to hang it on one thing. LOVE. This has been the revealing truth in our parenting, the journey Wendy and I have walked on and now write on.
Like most young parents, our first stab at parenting involved behavior, good works, and appearance. Love wasn’t absent, but it sure wasn’t “the most excellent way” (1 Corinthians 12:31).
Today, we strive to build a culture of love. Good behavior and all that jazz is still important, but the importance of it has been downgraded quite a few notches. This gives our children permission to…
- …love each other through misbehavior,
- …accept one another rather than be embarrassed for them,
- …live together in appreciation of the others’ gifts rather than jealous of their strengths.
It’s all good when love is the central goal of the family. When love is in the house.