We posted Bible verses about the blessing of children, encouraging parents to consider having another. Judging from some responses, we were asking too much. Consider this one:
This blog is so judgmental and condescending. You can say that it isn’t meant to come off that way, but it does. I think you know it does. That said, what about people in Africa or extremely poor countries where children suffer their entire lives and die a slow, painful death from starvation?
We’ll ignore the first half, and instead focus on the “starving Africans” argument. This isn’t the first time we’ve heard people use this reasoning to explain why another child should be avoided. The syllogism goes like this:
- God is calling me to love another child.
- God certainly wouldn’t be calling “starving Africans,” too.
- Therefore, God must not be calling me to love another child.
You see how this doesn’t flow (technically a logical fallacy called a non sequitur). We can’t let this argument get into our heads and control our decisions. It would be clinging to the world’s most extreme circumstance and placing ourselves in the same situation. In this case it is starving Africans, but it could be a myriad of other circumstances — none of which are ours — and using those as reasons to justify our personal choice.
Besides, we’re not blogging with starving Africans in mind. We cannot imagine parents from “extremely poor countries where children suffer their entire lives and die a slow, painful death from starvation” logging into JeubFamily.com when considering birth control options.
Here is who we do have in mind: web-surfing parents who somehow got into their minds that another child should be avoided. We’d love to have them stumble across this post and read some of our reasons for loving another child. We don’t believe our reasons are extreme. We believe they are simple, personal, and loving.
They aren’t getting these reasons much anywhere else. They get illogical reasons to reject another child, like the “You’re so judgmental, what about starving Africans?” argument.
Reasons that assume that children are not blessings, accustomed to the idea that children should be avoided, thinking another child in their life would be a curse.
And it’s too bad. Another child in their family is avoided because (sigh) there are starving children in Africa. They seldom get a proper rebuttal like the one that we offered in the post, rebuttals we give ample time to in our book Love Another Child.