Who’s Really Trolling, Anyway?

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This is Part IV of a series of posts on Jeub Trolls and Haterz.
Part I • Part II • Part III • Part IV 

Alright, enough trolling for trolls. The intellectual challenge was fun, but I’m going to return to ignoring them and focusing on the Jeub family message of Family, Love, Children and Jesus…

Tomorrow, that is.

I hope you have enjoyed the posts of the last couple weeks. Boy, they sure stir up the conversation. I thoroughly enjoyed it (as Wendy rolls her eyes and goes back to mothering). I would like to pause for a moment and let you know why I did this.

See, the conventional blogging wisdom is to ignore the trolls. We’ve been doing that for years, kind of. Inviting trolls to post on the blog is like inviting a thief to help you set your safe combination. They’ve been known to pollute websites, overwhelm good families who attempt to communicate similar messages to the world. So, most bloggers ignore them. That’s the blogging wisdom, I suppose.

But stop right there and think about this. Who has been doing the trolling the past couple of weeks? Your’s truly. Internet trolls try to persuade the reader, you. They think I’m a loon, but they suspect that you’re visiting this site with doubts in your minds. Perhaps you are. Perhaps:

  • You’re not so sure your marriage, your family, your children.
  • You’re on the pill or considering surgery to avoid pregnancy.
  • You don’t have it all together, thinking another child would be anything but a blessing.
  • You’re lambasted with reasons to NOT welcome another child, you’d like to hear the alternative.
  • Your faith is weak, you struggle mentally, you’re a mess – you’re looking for hope.

I could go on and on, couldn’t I? You come to this blog to seek answers, to be encouraged. You hear the world’s idea of Family, Love, Children and Jesus every time you turn on the TV, and you know most of it’s a bunch of garbage. You’d like to hear the contrary view for a change. Wendy and I seek out reasons for hope and love. Trolls seek out weakness to strike and devour.

Here’s a little secret: They’re not out to convince me, and I’m not out to convince them. In all my answers, I have YOU in mind. I don’t want their lies to get under your skin. You should – with me – kick their thoughts out of your life for good.

You know what happens when you seek truth and love in your life? When you hold tighter to the cross of Christ? When you submit to God and love him and others, starting with your own spouse and children and extended family? Life starts to look pretty doggone good. Sure, your crabby neighbor might think you’re weird, but who cares? Your house becomes more and more full of joy, becomes Love in the House.

  • You begin to love your spouse and your children.
  • You throw off the “fear” of pregnancy and discover what liberating sex really is.
  • You start to see life more clearly, appreciate your children more.
  • You become a good debater and enjoy stomping out the lies that tempt you.
  • Your walk with Jesus solidifies, you straighten up your life, and things start to look hopeful for a change.

And life is good. Trolls go back to the holes they crawled out of. And the love of our life, Jesus Christ, turns the water into wine.

“…the going will get rough. The world, the minions of darkness, and your own double-mindedness are all set against you. Just try coming alive, try living from your heart for the Sacred Romance and watch how the world responds. They will hate you for it and will do everything in their power to get you to fall back into the comfort of the way things were. Your passion will disrupt them, because it sides with their own heart which they’ve tried so hard to put away. If they can’t convince you to live from the safer places they have chosen, they will try intimidation. If that fails, they’ll try to kill you—if not literally, then at the level of your soul.”
– John Eldredge
About Chris Jeub

Chris is the father of 16 children, busily running the family businesses and learning the depths of love along the way.

  • Ajoyfulmoc

    Too funny. I mean, true and awesome…but too funny the way you said that the trolls can now go back into the holes they came out of!  I like the family pics that you have in your posts now. It adds greatly to the words.

    • Chris Jeub

      I like the pictures, too. I figure posting a good photo on blog posts is a lot better than showing a slideshow of a bunch.

  • Shallybear

    Wow! Love that last quote! As a mom of a larger than average family I constantly feel that worldly response to our decisions. Thank you for your encouragement! And I wanted to let you all now that after much prayer and seeking my husband has changed his mind about having another. Our seventh child is due in June 2012! God is so good!

    • Chris Jeub

      Congratulations on #7! And very glad you and your hubby are in unison on this. I remember the days when Wendy and I were iffy. Come to think of it, it was when we had less than seven.

      Seven kids, now you’re getting into the big leagues!

  • Sheila

    Well said Chris!
     The world will hate those who stand with Jesus. This is so evident today with the hateful comments being directed at the Duggar family after losing their precious baby girl, Jubilee. They chose to share very private but beautiful images of Michelle holding her little girl’s tiny hand and feet which brought me to the verge of tears.
    May God touch the hardened hearts of these people who see not a child but just a fetus.I pray that you will continue to encourage others to love children and to value them as gifts from the Lord.

    • Chris Jeub

      From the Duggar’s blog, on Jubilee’s little feet: “There is no foot too small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world.”

      The Duggars are fantastic people. They understand the trolls more than the trolls understand anything.

      • Sheila

        Have you had a chance to hear the moving letter that Michelle wrote to Jubilee?
        She recorded it and it was played at the memorial service. Tears streamed down my face as I listened, it was so moving.

        • Chris Jeub

          No, I haven’t. Do you have a link to the video?

          • Sheila

            Hi Chris,
                      The Duggar’s own website has the link.

  • Jen

    I’m new to the site.  I came here to get the support that I do not receive from pretty much everybody that doesn’t know our family.  I like this post because I can relate;  I am trolled everywhere I go.  I am expecting my 10th in May, 2012 (all from the same mommy and daddy).  We have 7 girls and 2 boys.  Of course, when all us girls go somewhere a lot of heads turn.  For the last 2 pregnancies I have been the center of jokes and conversation of busy bodies.  Mostly women that can’t keep it together with just 2!  We homeschool and  keep a busy life with mission work, karate, music (piano, violin, guitar), and art.  I just appreciate this site and wanted to let you know it has come to me at a good time in my life.  I was starting to let the comments cause bitterness that was affecting me personally.  I now have re-realized that I have to be myself and trolls can keep being trolls.  I will continue to let Jesus be my light and devote myself to my husband and children.  Thank you and may God continue to bless your family.

    • Chris Jeub

      Welcome to the site, Jen. Thank you for your kind words!

      • Christine

        I’m very new to this blog as well! And I appreciate this post very much and agree – I felt like this was written in response to a personal letter I sent earlier in the week…You and Wendy have a lovely family. I guess when we are following the will of God – advancing His Kingdom there’ll be direct opposition – but thankfully, greater is He who is in us then he who is in the world… Blessings to you!

        • Chris Jeub

          Amen to that!

  • Chris Jeub

    Here’s something that helps: Keep foremost in your mind your readers, not the trolls. Readers are reading the comments and following the discussion, too.

  • Peggy

    Chris, I am very interested in hearing your opinions about fertility treatments. It may open up another heated debate for you, but I’m curious to know your views, or what you believe the Bible says about fertility treatments. Thanks!

    • Chris Jeub

      I don’t know much about them. From what little I do understand, there are those that intentionally create life and then destroy them, and those that are medically intended to increase the chance of fertilization. The former I am against, not because of the desire to have a child, but because death of children are involved in getting the one. The latter sounds fine by me.

      But I’ll yield this to a guest blogger. Want to write an analysis? I’m curious what YOU think. =)

      • jenny

        “I don’t know much about them”  Quote by Chris Jeub………….rofl………obviously he has not needed to study into that……….

  • jenny

    Erika, that link doesn’t work, do you think  you could try it again, I would like to see your blog.