You know where we’re coming from. We love children. They’re blessings. Always. And we encourage couples to view them as blessings, too, welcoming children into their home. We’re convinced God has called us to such a lifestyle, and we believe He is calling others, perhaps you. A lot of what we post about attempts to encourage you to overcome the common misunderstandings of the lots-of-children lifestyle. Some of the misunderstandings are commonplace and understandable, others outrageous.
We got a doozy not too long ago. Someone tried to argue that Jesus took away the old law of “be fruitful and increase in number” (Gen. 1:28, etc.). Instead, he argued, God gave us the freedom to choose our family planning. “Modern medicine allows us to choose contraception,” he told us. “And God has given us modern medicine. Therefore, we are given the free will to choose.” This person was an ordained minister.
It seemed this pastor was oblivious that the argument that he gave was the exact same argument that has justified abortion, euthanasia, eugenics, and every other hideous, life-killing option in so-called modern medical practice. In the name of science, killing and manipulating life is valued. He just rattled off his reasoning, apparently not giving it much thought. We can’t help but wonder how many young couples he preached this to, couples who may have been receiving the honest conviction from God to love another child.
This is what was most disappointing: the pastor built his argument on the assumption that children were a burden. We’re “free” from having to have children. The “burden” is lifted from us. Also disappointing: not one piece of Scripture was given to back up his advice. It was totally based on his own personal belief, flashing his pastor-badge to validate his claim.
Scripture says the opposite. Children are a total blessings, sometimes not fully realized until you have them, just as it said in the Old Testament. The New Testament backs up the Old, no change in worldview at all. Consider these verses:
A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.
At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” He called a little child and had him stand among them. And he said: “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
See that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven.
When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”
But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.
—1 Timothy 2:15
So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.
—1 Timothy 5:14
Did Jesus view children like this pastor? We’ll more fully answer that question tomorrow. For now, we’re pondering how prevalent such a view is among Christians. Have you come across pastors like this one? Post your comments below, we’d love to hear from you.