I recently got into a good conversation with someone who is struggling with blogging. She’s older and having trouble with technical issues, but also with the idea of “offending” people. She has a wealth of wisdom to share, so I (and her friends) am encouraging her to start blogging.
But here’s her dilemma. Every time she tries writing something profound, she hesitates. She’s afraid of offending others. She thinks her ideas are judging people who disagree with her. She’s in a deadlock, and I hope she sees her way through it.
Many people wonder why I – with Wendy – press on with our messages on Family, Children, Love and Jesus knowing full-well we offend the childless-by-choice crowd. Seriously, if you read some of the comments from visitors, you can see the obvious: Our message ticks some people off. They do not want to be reminded that:
- Family is arguably the most treasured thing anyone has in their life.
- Children. They’re blessings. Always.
- Love is the most important commandment.
- Jesus loves everyone and has a wonderful life ahead for them, and that life could be with a lot of children.
So the trolls come, they vomit in the comment section of our blog posts, and they go back to their childless-by-choice websites that enjoy gossiping about TLC families. Okay, fine. For our family – and probably for yours, if you are just passing by for a visit – we return to Family, Children, Love and Jesus. And life couldn’t be more rewarding over here.
See, as a blogger, you’ll be sharing your perspectives, but this is NOT the same as picking a fight. When living in community, we should all be able to “take some, leave some.” Your blogging is your sharing – giving some of yourself to others – not your judgment on them.
That said, writing will bring criticism. Should the crabby trolls give me pause; should I hesitate before casting my opinion on my own blog? Only when that opinion is mean-spirited or incorrect, and I strive (like every blogger should) to consider the wisdom in my thoughts. Because really…
The only way to avoid criticism
is to avoid saying anything worth while at all.
Instead, respond kindly to your critics, sometimes leaving their opinions to themselves, and perhaps somewhere in the dialogue you learn from one another. This is healthy and encourages people to grow and learn in harmony. I learn along with my audience. The more I write, the more I learn, and the better writer (and thinker) I become.
But here’s dead end thinking: believing that your opinions are judgmental, and therefore not worth sharing. Or labeling your heartfelt insights as sin. “We shouldn’t judge, you know.”
Hogwash. This stinking thinking robs others from the gifts you have to share. “Hide it under a bushel — NO!” If you, like my friend, are struggling with this idea of being judgmental because you hold a point of view you think is worth sharing, I suggest you throw that idea out and let your little light shine. You have a lot to share and life is short.
P.S. Here are a few links to some of our most criticized articles from the past few months. Click through and scroll down to the comments. Help me out a bit and reply to them!