Our most troll-like comments come when we talk of the blessing of children. I’m not sure why folks who think so differently from us visit our site. Is our message of Family, Children, Love and Jesus really that offensive? Perhaps for some. Here’s a recent comment:
“Not everyone is into kids and not all are meant to be parents. No one should be looked down on for their choices. IMO the pressure is to have kids from society and family. And who do the parents think support their child tax credits? They really should think of the financial burden placed on others… This large family trend will soon pass when reality hits.”
Gee, where do I begin? The issues brought up are not new (we’ve heard them all before). Behind these loose arguments are really blatant fallacies, incorrect assumptions largely from a culture that runs contrary to our lifestyle. Allow me to explain.
“Not everyone is into kids and not all are meant to be parents. No one should be looked down on for their choices.”
Wendy and I try very hard to make this clear to others: We are not condemning any parent for responding to God’s calling. We have talked with people who are sincere in their restricting of children, but we have met countless others who regret their past resistance to have children. We speak to those who are meant to be parents but, for a myriad of reasons, are looked down on for their convictions.
And we assume that those who aren’t “into kids” or aren’t “meant to be parents” aren’t hunky-dory about the Jeub Family website. We’re not looking down on them. We are challenging those who are into kids and are meant to be parents, but they’ve fallen for the societal argument that they should restrict their blessings. Which leads to the next line…
“IMO the pressure is to have kids from society and family.”
I’ll grant you this: Couples, especially newlyweds, get the pressure. But I’d argue that the pressure is to have just one or two, no more. Encouragement to continue having children is rare. Think about this for a moment: Is the pressure to raise a bountiful family a negative thing? It obviously is to adversaries of the life and love we discuss on this blog. No matter, though. We resist the pressure we experience to resist children, and we encourage other couples with what we have learned along the way. And what we’ve learned is quite liberating and true: children are blessings. The life that follows couldn’t be more fulfilling.
“And who do the parents think support their child tax credits? They really should think of the financial burden placed on others.”
The assumption is that families can’t afford their children. On the surface, or at least at the onset of the first child, they can’t. We say that’s okay. Families are the most stable socioeconomic unit in the world. Every other family structure falls far short of a Dad, Mom and Children. When that first child comes, I have a tremendous amount of confidence that those parents will do all they can to make sure that child is raised in an economically sound home.
But I find it interesting that child tax credits are considered, from the likes of this comment, on the lines of welfare. Because we receive a tax credit for every child, this is somehow placing a burden on others? What a convoluted way of looking at this. See, children are blessings to not only us, but to the greater economy. The measly $2000 credit we receive is chump change compared to the value the child will bring to others. We’re not just feeding children; we’re raising tax payers. And the fact that we’re raising many under one roof is much more economical than the tax credit justifies. If you do the math, we’re saving the State so much money that we should get a larger tax credit for every addition we bring.
“This large family trend will soon pass when reality hits.”
This assumption is so in the face of the opening assumption that it is rather silly. It’s as if this commenter is saying, “No one should be looked down on for their choices, unless the choice is to have a lot of children.” Anyway, let’s take this concluding statement seriously for a moment.
Wendy and I hope this is a trend that lasts. The reality is that children are blessings (just as God intended) and having more than the societal norm is quite pleasant. The assumption that too many would not be pleasant are assumptions made by folks who really don’t know any better. These couples follow their dreamt-up assumptions, the time passes and the children don’t come. Their reality becomes something without children, and for some this is alright.
Our books and this website attempt to remove those assumptions and replace them with reality: Family, Children, Love and Jesus. Now these are assumptions worth following! A reality to desire.
If the trend is to bring couples back to this reality – to remove the barriers they or others put there about the blessings of children – and love another child, then I say great. Let the trend live on!