We have people who visit this site who have no interest in children or family life. We’re fine with that. Really. Why they visit our family blog is none of our business. Perhaps it’s because they have no kids and have a ton of extra time, who knows.
These folks tend to leave snarky comments. That’s okay, too, I enjoy answering them in the comment section. Wendy would rather stick to writing and speaking (and raising children, by the way). When she reposted an article about parents’ biological clock (The Biological Countdown), we got a snippy response from someone:
Thanks for your quick biology lesson. The point, expressed in a later comment, was that men don’t need to have babies early in their life. They can wait, even as long as their sunset years. I’ll have my children in my 20s and 30s, others in their 60s and 70s. Why? Because, unlike women, we can.
But just because we can do something doesn’t mean it is right, or preferred, or even a good idea. Women have only a window of opportunity to have children, but as this commentator so brilliantly observed, men can produce children till their ripe old age.
If this is your idea of good family planning, Wendy and I strongly encourage you to reconsider. Here are a few good reasons why.
1. You have more energy when you’re young.
I’m 41 years old, and I’m already feeling tired. I used to play games with my kids on the living room floor. Tickling nights were a most common evening of fun. Impromptu games like Get the Pillow and Tree were invented on the spot. Today, I’m 41, and those kinds of games are just plain tiring. Besides, the older brothers have taken up the task and would out do me if I tried. Looking back, having little kids in my 20s was a true blessing.
2. You learn a lot when you have your own children.
Also looking back, I can honestly say I was stupid when I had my first child. I thought I had life mostly figured out. Then parenting came along. It changed everything, and for the better. I cannot imagine learning the great depths of love without walking through the life experience of parenthood. I’m glad I took the plunge at a young age, and I can’t help but encourage other young couples to do the same.
3. You can enjoy life when you’re old.
At 41, some people will be perhaps start thinking about life with children. I’m starting to think about life with grandchildren. My home may not be as orderly as the young 25 year old who’s thinking anything but children, but it is full of life. There’s never a boring moment.
Come to think of it, I haven’t been bored in years. I remember lots of boring moments as a childless single guy. Not many with a life of so many lives.
My suggestion is to have kids in your 20s and 30s. Do you really want to be in your 60s? Though it may be physically possible, it is not desirable.