Feb
06
2012

Passionate Kissing in Front of the Children

The famous navy kiss. Notice how the onlookers can’t help but smile.

We heard an interesting discussion between some marriage counselors on the radio the other day. Apparently, passionate kissing at least 15 seconds per day will revitalize youthful love for one another. We decided to give it a try, so we laid it on one another in the living room.

Micah walked by. “That is just sick!” he said.

Chris returned, “Kisses like that is one reason you exist.”

“That is just sicker!” he laughed.

Our love for one another is awesome already, but the kissing has added a bit of flair lately. Micah and his siblings will groan and turn their heads, but we’re not fooled to think they’re serious. They laugh and giggle about it. They know their parents love each other, and we’d argue that healthy displays of affection validate that love for the children.

The radio discussion we heard revealed an ugly reality: hardly any marriage participated in passionate kissing at all. And everyday was virtually unheard of. Perhaps parents have come up with some reasons:

  • It’s inappropriate in front of the children.
  • There’s a time for affection, and that time is always later.
  • Affection belongs in the bedroom, closed door, lights off, etc.

Or perhaps parents are just busy. We’ve been laying it on each other lately – which has been fun – but before we heard the radio discussion, we wouldn’t have concurred to every day.

The result of such thinking? Stiff and stale of love, marriages too busy to stop and enjoy some physical chemistry. This lack of love pours into the home. A little bit of passionate kissing may be what you need to spice things up in your house.

Think of the loving atmosphere you want your home to have. You want your children to love each other, you want you and your spouse to love one another, you want everyone to love God with joy. This takes loving action. Maybe…

A passionate kiss every day – and some right there in the midst of the hustle and bustle of living room life – is the perfect display of Love in the House.

Give it a try, and tell us what you think in the comment section below.

About Chris & Wendy Jeub

The Jeub Family live in Monument, Colorado. They encourage couples to love God and love one another, building an atmosphere of love in their homes.

  • http://profiles.google.com/ebrammer Evan Brammer

    Well, it makes me wish I were at home right now. :)

    • jenny

      poor evan…………

  • Mary Beth

    My husband and I are very affectionate infront of our children. I can’t help it he drives me crazy..haha..20 years and we still got it. My heart still skips a beat when I see him walk in the door in the morning (he works at night). He is the love of my life and I let our children know that always.

  • Chris

    Modesty is very important in my  home, and that is why I (personally) would not make a reference to my sex life to my teenage son.

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

      Modesty is important to us, too, but we didn’t say sex in front of the children. Kissing. Is that immodest?

      • Chris

        No, it was the comment about how this was part of the reason he exists. That was not something I would have said to a hormonal teenage boy. 

        • Prayathomemom

          I once heard James Dobson talking about how to teach kids the facts of life. One of the things he said was not to say too much. He gave the example that we don’t have to mention that sex is FUN. I have always disagreed with that. The world out there constantly shows them that all kinds of immorality is fun. I want to let my kids know that sex the way God planned it is fun. I tell them quite young that this is exactly why people want to do it before marriage and whatever – because they want the fun even though they do not want the commitment. But kissing in front of them is better than telling them. I need to work on this more… Thanks!

    • Mary Beth

      Chris we aren’t talking about sex here but intimacy…showing love infront of our children. I know alot of men think intimacy=sex but it isn’t that at all. Also kids need to know about these things or they will grow up thinking that it’s wrong to be loving and to show that to the world. Yes it’s very important to be modest but you are thinking that in the wrong way.

  • jenny

    Yippee!  I think everyone should agree on this post! 
    And I think we all know what we should not do in front of our kiddos, are you going to blog on that too?

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

      Wendy and I did think about getting more specific, but decided against it. I suppose in summary: keep your tongue in your mouth.

      • Mack

        Sorry, but I don’t see that comment as being terribly modest.

        Personally, I think the best way parents can make kids feel secure is to show them that they are not afraid to go out and get a job and support their family. Watching dad at home kissing mom, when there are a heavy load of outstanding bills, really doesn’t do much to make kids feel secure.

  • Sarah M. in MI

    My parents NEVER kissed in front of us.  They love each other, but they didn’t really show affection.  My hubby and I show affection all the time.  We never want our children to wonder if we love each other.  I don’t think that saying that your love (displayed by the kissing) is the reason your kids are here, is immodest.  

  • Amyarger

    My parents were very affectionate in front of us- tush squeezing, hugging, kissing… All the time! We loved knowing how much they loved each other. Sadly, my husband grew up quite the opposite. Now, in our own marriage, we never hide the fact that we are IN LOVE with each other. Our kids find security in knowing their parent’s relationship is stable and loving. We keep it modest, of course, but never hide our love!

  • Beka

    A great speaker at a marriage retreate my husband and I recently attended said “The best gift you can give your children is letting them know that their parents love each other and that your marriage is stable,” and I think this suggestion is a great way of doing that! He also suggested making sure your children KNEW you went on date nights (not hiding it or sneaking away) so that they could see your commitment to eachother was a priority. Such great advice.

  • Mack

    Actually, that picture is not about love at all. That sailor was just grabbing women off the street, kissing them, to celebrate the end of the war. Nothing to do with love in the house, there.

    • Eightasterisk

      Furthermore, when the picture isn’t cropped, the nurse is pulling her yanked up skirt down so as not to reveal her slip and garterbelt.

  • Janetkiessling

    Well, I do agree with the post – my hubby & I do all of the time & If that is true about the picture…….well………..

  • http://profiles.google.com/anij34 Jolene O’Dell

    HA!  I love this subject!  We make out (G-rated but pretty passionate) in front of the kids ALL the time!  No, seriously, multiple times a day!   Some of our children “ewww” over it and others applaud us!  Love it! 

  • Nancyjoya

    My husband and I are the only parents I know who display affection in public; my son participates in basketball and baseball among other activities, and my husband is a coach for both sports.  Whenever he comes over to see me at a game, or if we are at home, or if we are out in public, he always gives me a quick kiss or hug when we part and tells me he loves me.  I am amazed that other couples don’t show affection; maybe that is their way.  I think it is important for your child (I have only one son) to know that parents love each other and it is OK to show affection.  I hope my son treats his wife the way his father treats me; he has a great role model.

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

       Beautifully said!

  • Annette Frontz

    We actually had to tell our kiddos that we didn’t want to hear anymore “Ew! Yuck!” noises when we were kissing. They’re blessed to have parents who like each other enough to smooch, and if they don’t like it, they can leave the room.

  • Rosie

    Children need to know that their parents love and respect each other, and that they are safe and secure.  Our children see hugs, kisses, affectionate touches, and warm conversations, both because that is what we do, and because a loving home is a home filled with affection and respect. 

    Passion, however – as distinct from love and affection – belongs in the bedroom. 

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

       You know, you bring up a really good point. Perhaps the title’s word choice should say “Affectionate Kissing” instead of “Passionate Kissing.” That would be more accurate to what Wendy and I were trying to articulate.

  • Robin Walenceus

    I am advocate of tastefully displaying the love my husband and I share.  We have a family of 8, six daughters!   I tell them often that I want them to wait until the Lord finds them a man they want to kiss no matter who is looking.  I hope they will all have marriages that get better with every passing year, like mine.  Here’s for kissing!  

    ANother thought, I think it shows the priority of the marriage in the family relationships.