Families Must Not Miss This Mark on Love

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We’re all about love. You may already know that from the books we write. Every one of them have “love” in the title. We speak about Love in the House wherever we go, because…

Too many households have little love in it, yet this is precisely what we ought to have in our homes. [Tweet this]

We’re parents of 16 children ages 28 down to nearly-1. We get around and meet families from all over the country, primarily through our speaking and our children’s avid involvement in speech and debate. There are great families out there, but few share in the love that we share.

  • The parents fight, and they insist all marriage is difficult.
    We rarely fight, and we can’t imagine life without each other.
  • The kids fight, and they insist all siblings fight.
    Our kids get in scuffs, but their love for one another is far greater than petty skirmishes.
  • Inlaws / Extended family are hassles, as they always are.
    We love our extended family members, and we make it our point to stay connected.

Love is a constant issue to talk about in our family: what love is, how we can show love to one another, studying the depths of Scripture and its profound teachings on love. It consumes a big part of our schooling, discussions, and devotions. It’s no wonder that our house is full of love. We enjoy one another and welcome others into it.

We don’t mean to sound haughty. Please don’t click away thinking we have nothing to share. We used to think love was trivial, something not as important as whatever. Work, travel, the TV – it didn’t matter. We had the uncanny idea that love was just a feeling, and that real success in life had to do with our convoluted sense of righteousness that had little to do with love. We’re so glad we got over that.

Let’s get to the point, lay it on the line, tell it to you straight:

If you miss the mark on love, you miss the mark on life. Really, you will have no life at all. [Tweet this]

It has taken us 20 years of marriage and parenting to figure this out. Some days we have to slow down, pray, and relearn the depth of love in the house. We believe all families should do the same. Love should be at the center of your life, your core theology. Scripture couldn’t be clearer: “Whoever does not know love does not know God, for God is love” (1 John 4:8). Families – and churches, for that matter – should be thinking of the things of love much more.

The life we have in the home today knows little of the misery of an unloving atmosphere. We’re so thankful that we veered from the path of legalism and judgment (such false religions these are) and relearned love.

We invite you to do the same. Is your home full of love?

About Chris & Wendy Jeub

The Jeub Family live in Monument, Colorado. They encourage couples to love God and love one another, building an atmosphere of love in their homes.

  • Sheila(UK)

    Christ’s message is all about love.
    God’s love for us is to be mirrored by our love for each other.
    You are right when you say that if we do not love then we have missed the message. I pray that the love of Christ would be the centre of every home, city and nation.

  • Rosie

    Who is this “they” you refer to?  How do you know that “their” kids and parents fight, that they have extended-family conflicts?  I don’t think anyone would disagree with your statement about missing the mark on love.
    You make a lot of assumptions here, and you do indeed sound haughty.  There is plenty of love to go around, and plenty of people out there (“they”) living as lovingly as your family does.

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

      I hope you’re right, Rosie. But I’d say your view is a bit “rosie” (heh).

      • Rosie

        I’m not sure I understand your response as I am genuinely curious to know who you refer to, exactly, when you say “they” in your post.  Who are these people whose kids and parents fight, who have extended-family conflicts?

        Could you be specific?

  • Rosie

    …”few share in the love that we share.”

    And you know this … how?

  • http://comptines.over-blog.com/ Nicole Snitselaar

    I am really thrilled to have all these books! They are great!
    For the moment my favoutite ones are the cookbooks, something we have to do every day
    (I must take the time to read them all)

  • Martha

    Hi, may I ask what was the “path of legalism and judgment”? I mean, what did that look like. You say you veered from that and relearned love. Could you give me some examples, or maybe refer me to earlier blog posts about this?
    I’m asking, because I struggle with finding balance in trying to make Godly lifestyle choices and sometimes I think that I’m just being legalist precisely.
    Thanks. Martha :)

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

      Boy, this is the crux of many of our books, primarily “Love in the House” and “Love Another Child.” We blog about legalism and judgment often. Do a search and you’ll find several posts. Hate to be a salesman, but get our books for really in depth analysis.