Apr
07
2012

Make Sure Your Dreams Win

I'm dreaming I'll own one of these someday.

The picture above is me at Apols Harley Davidson in Minnesota a couple months ago. An old friend of mine – he was one of my groomsmen in our wedding – is living his dream as a Harley Davidson Manager. We had a nice visit, and I sure liked saddling up to that Harley. That started me dreaming, so we’ll see where that leads me.

Here’s a question: How do you make a dream a reality?
Maybe a better question: Which dreams are worth pursuing?
Yet a better question: What gets in the way of your dreams?

When our TLC show aired for the first time in 2007, our family huddled around our 30-day free Dish Network trial to tune in. We kept the boob tube on for about a month and was thoroughly reminded why we don’t watch TV, let alone bother to own one. I think the dish is still on our roof, Dish Network’s way of holding out just in case we ever change our minds.

While it lasted, we found the other reality shows quite interesting. Some of them were way out of our circle of life – the life of tattoo artists, custom detailers and motorcyclists – and some pretty tame, like Little People Big World. All of them were appealing, just as I suppose our Kids by the Dozen show was to viewers.

Why is that? Because no matter what the particular choices people make, viewers (like myself) can’t help be find it intriguing. “Hmmm, I wonder what it would be like to build my own motorcycle?” I found myself dreaming of my life outside of the life I had at the time.

I still don’t own a motorcycle, let alone build my own, but that’s not the point I’m trying to communicate here. I believe people find themselves dreaming about very noble and worthy things, but they allow fears to creep in and rob themselves of making those dreams a reality. For Wendy and me, there was a day we dreamed of…

  • Having more than just a few children
  • Homeschooling our children in our living room
  • Owning a home with land of several acres
  • Self-employed, creating resources people enjoyed, speaking joy into other’s lives

Well, pinch my cheek and call me a hicky. Look at us today. Here we are, 16 children, everyday filled with excitement and activity on our 6.5 acre land, publishing curriculum to speakers and debaters nationwide. Wendy and I recall the younger days feeling a bit walled into a corner without much hope for breaking out to chase our dreams. My, how times have changed. How we have changed!

Dreaming is not a bad thing. No doubt, dreaming is the necessary start to overcoming obstacles and pressing on toward the great plan God has for us. This is what is bad: Negative fears that have no business being a part of our dreams. They creep in and steal our dreams away.

Did you read my post from last week on conformity? (See Nonconformity Has Its Blessings.) Conformity is one such fear. It was a scary step to…

  • Welcome the blessing of another child (most of our friends had just one or two)
  • Take our children from school and educating them at home (I was a public school teacher at the time)
  • Haul the family clear across the country to Colorado (we had never known adult life outside Minnesota)
  • Leave the security of a steady paycheck to create good things for others (and we only hoped people would appreciate them enough to buy them)

Wendy and I stepped forward regardless. Hand in hand, we lept, and our lives have been oh-so-rich ever since.

These are deep thoughts, sorry for such a long post, but I hope these thoughts resonate with you and your family. Ponder your own choices in life. Do you dare to ask those questions I asked at the beginning of this post? Here they are, a little more personal:

  1. How do you make the dreams for your family a reality?
  2. Are you chasing the dreams worth pursuing, or are you just sitting in front of the television?
  3. What fears have you given into, and when are you going to start ignoring them?
I love that picture of me on the Harley, and I love the fact that my buddy is managing such a cool store. Whenever Wendy and I see an old couple on a Harley enjoying a summer ride, I grin at her and say, “That’ll be me and you, someday.” It’s not on our priority list today, but someday it will. Right now it is “just” a dream.
About Chris Jeub

Chris is the father of 16 children, busily running the family businesses and learning the depths of love along the way.

  • http://www.facebook.com/mommydunn Sara Dunn

    LOVE it- Thank You!

  • BJ

    It’s amazing how God puts dreams inside of us, and then gives us the desires of our heart!  Keep dreaming!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_BZXHT7XDXDDSOBCWGPTUGYGV5Q Elizabeth

    You mention having 6.5 acres. So I wondered if you have a vegetable garden?

    • http://www.jeubfamily.com/ Chris Jeub

      No, we don’t. =(

      • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_BZXHT7XDXDDSOBCWGPTUGYGV5Q Elizabeth

        Is it something you’re considering? It just seems like it would be very worthwhile to grow a lot of your own veggies.

        On another note, how is Wendy coming along in her recovery?

  • T. Gates

    I recently attended revival at a local church, and one night the pastor talked about how our lives are not made up of dreams but instead of choices.  We can dream all day long, but our lives are the choices we make.  So, I say to people to start choosing to live your dreams!

  • Charity

    Love it! My husband has also always had a dream of having a motorcycle. His boss & boss’s wife build their own custom and take long trips together, sounds like fun! Right now though, with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and 2 month old, it’s just not that time for us yet. I love reading your blog – it always gets me thinking and usually grinning too!

  • DavidS

    Isn’t the process of sanctification having our dreams (wishes, desires, etc) transformed into God’s dreams?

    I have found that many of my dreams are selfish, sinful or just directed towards my own comfort.  These dreams are not centered in God’s kingdom and need to be discarded so that I can focus on what He wants.

    The challenge of Jesus to “pick up our cross and follow me” was meant to describe that we need to die to what we want and come alive to what He wants.

    I find much of the Christianized “chase your dreams” mentality to be oppositional to the Gospel, where we are called to give up our silly pursuits for the beauty and grandeur of God’s plans.

    C.S. Lewis –
    “Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the
    staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem
    that Our Lord finds our desires, not too strong, but too weak. We are
    half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition
    when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go
    on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by
    the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”