The picture above is me at Apols Harley Davidson in Minnesota a couple months ago. An old friend of mine – he was one of my groomsmen in our wedding – is living his dream as a Harley Davidson Manager. We had a nice visit, and I sure liked saddling up to that Harley. That started me dreaming, so we’ll see where that leads me.
Here’s a question: How do you make a dream a reality?
Maybe a better question: Which dreams are worth pursuing?
Yet a better question: What gets in the way of your dreams?
When our TLC show aired for the first time in 2007, our family huddled around our 30-day free Dish Network trial to tune in. We kept the boob tube on for about a month and was thoroughly reminded why we don’t watch TV, let alone bother to own one. I think the dish is still on our roof, Dish Network’s way of holding out just in case we ever change our minds.
While it lasted, we found the other reality shows quite interesting. Some of them were way out of our circle of life – the life of tattoo artists, custom detailers and motorcyclists – and some pretty tame, like Little People Big World. All of them were appealing, just as I suppose our Kids by the Dozen show was to viewers.
Why is that? Because no matter what the particular choices people make, viewers (like myself) can’t help be find it intriguing. “Hmmm, I wonder what it would be like to build my own motorcycle?” I found myself dreaming of my life outside of the life I had at the time.
I still don’t own a motorcycle, let alone build my own, but that’s not the point I’m trying to communicate here. I believe people find themselves dreaming about very noble and worthy things, but they allow fears to creep in and rob themselves of making those dreams a reality. For Wendy and me, there was a day we dreamed of…
- Having more than just a few children
- Homeschooling our children in our living room
- Owning a home with land of several acres
- Self-employed, creating resources people enjoyed, speaking joy into other’s lives
Well, pinch my cheek and call me a hicky. Look at us today. Here we are, 16 children, everyday filled with excitement and activity on our 6.5 acre land, publishing curriculum to speakers and debaters nationwide. Wendy and I recall the younger days feeling a bit walled into a corner without much hope for breaking out to chase our dreams. My, how times have changed. How we have changed!
Dreaming is not a bad thing. No doubt, dreaming is the necessary start to overcoming obstacles and pressing on toward the great plan God has for us. This is what is bad: Negative fears that have no business being a part of our dreams. They creep in and steal our dreams away.
Did you read my post from last week on conformity? (See Nonconformity Has Its Blessings.) Conformity is one such fear. It was a scary step to…
- Welcome the blessing of another child (most of our friends had just one or two)
- Take our children from school and educating them at home (I was a public school teacher at the time)
- Haul the family clear across the country to Colorado (we had never known adult life outside Minnesota)
- Leave the security of a steady paycheck to create good things for others (and we only hoped people would appreciate them enough to buy them)
Wendy and I stepped forward regardless. Hand in hand, we lept, and our lives have been oh-so-rich ever since.
These are deep thoughts, sorry for such a long post, but I hope these thoughts resonate with you and your family. Ponder your own choices in life. Do you dare to ask those questions I asked at the beginning of this post? Here they are, a little more personal:
- How do you make the dreams for your family a reality?
- Are you chasing the dreams worth pursuing, or are you just sitting in front of the television?
- What fears have you given into, and when are you going to start ignoring them?