A Person’s Greatest Threat


Speaking on a panel is fun. Speaking alone...that's threatening.

Cynthia leaves her library books laying around. It gets her in trouble now and then when they’re overdue, but her bad habit makes for impromptu reading. Chris and I went out for coffee and picked out this quote from one of the books laying in the car:

“There is no greater threat in life than that we will be deserted, left all alone.” (Bruno Bettelheim, The Uses of Enchantment)

At the time I was preparing for a speech the next day, and I was nervous. I would rather stay home and pour love into my house, but God opened an opportunity to help others put Love in the House. It was a good speech and I was excited about giving it, but that didn’t get rid of the butterflies. I told Chris, “I don’t agree with this. I think public speaking is the greatest threat!”

Chris didn’t immediately agree. He thought about it for a little bit, then returned: “Perhaps little is more lonely than being on stage.”

“Oooo,” I said. “Deep thought.”

I spoke on a panel over lunch, and I was totally comfortable with that. It was being front-and-center that I wasn’t excited about. It would be just me. And to make matters worse, I’d have a room of moms looking at just me. That is threatening.

Chris continued. “The way to overcome the threat of loneliness is to engage your audience. Have them in mind, be one with them, converse with them. Then you’ll overcome your alienation and your fear.”

Chris is a speech coach, you know. I ended up having a great time with the ladies and I shared with my friends ways they could bring more love in their house.

What do you think of that quote? I being left alone the greatest fear?

About Wendy Jeub

Yes, Wendy Jeub has brought 16 children into the world, and loves each and every one of them. So much so, she'd welcome more!

  • Sheila (UK)

    I think this could be many people’s greatest fear.
    I also think God knew that when He promised to never leave us or forsake us. He is addressing one of our basic needs in this promise.
               Well done for standing up and speaking, I would have been nervous!

    • Wendy Jeub

       I agree that God knew what our needs would be. God so loves us and will never leave us. Praise be to God!

  • Janetkiessling

    Wow…..I, too, had to speak in front a room full of ladies at a conference – first time! Yes, there were 2 other ladies with me – but I still blew my speech! I am not a public speaker when “all eyes are on me” for 30 seconds or 5 minutes. Now, when we were all done speaking – I was fine with the Q & A part – just not the speaking part…………..:{……..

    • Wendy Jeub

       Public speaking is really hard. I do know how you feel that the Q & A part seems to go fine. (Hugs)

  • Sarah McGraw

    I’m sort-of walking thru this situation right now.  My brother (38) died two weeks ago.  I was so afraid of him dying and leaving his wife alone with their four kids.  But, the LORD has been with her.  He has been with the kids.  He is with them now.  As an earthly human, being alone is scary.  But, we’re never REALLY alone. God is always there.  Walking us thru it. I miss my big brother.  I know his wife and children miss him, too.  But, GOD fills the void.

  • Prayathomemom

    Yes, I think that’s the most difficult part of death. People can have many loved ones right there with them, but they know everyone can only go so far with them, then they are on their own.

  • Elizabeth

    The first speech I had to give was when I was in the Naval Reserves after finishing active duty. I was an officer. I was to speak to about 100 enlisted Navy men on the role of women in today’s Navy. That was scary!! I have no memory of what I said, no one jeered so I guess I did OK. The only other speech I’ve given was a graduation address in 2007. I can live without ever giving another speech. I don’t know how you do it so often.